Thursday, January 26, 2012

Cyberbullying.

The term 'cyberbullying' is often associated with high school and cliquey teens, but truthfully, it can happen to anyone. To be frank, and probably a bit naive, but I thought name calling and rumour spreading was something that finished with school.

Whether or not you know who it is, direct or passive aggressive, it's not a pleasant experience. Knowing that someone took time out of their day to send negativity and nastiness is pretty disheartening, even at times for the thickest of skins.

I abhor the notion that there are people out there who revel in abusing portals such as anonymous messaging for the purposes of being vindictive, accusatory and untruthful. If you've experienced something similar, you need to know, it's something that can be stopped. Before I continue, I really must stress the importance of telling someone. It's difficult, and it can feel like it's something that you should be ashamed of, but it's really not. Talking to someone you trust really helps relieve the pressure and stress that something like this can place on you, both mentally and emotionally. You're not alone, and you don't have to be silent.

Unfortunately, part of having a life online is you're going to encounter people you do not agree with, it's a fact of life, but sometimes people can take it too far. Anonymous messaging is a blessing and a curse, and while the temptation of receiving cute messages is sweet, it's just not worth the portal it gives douchebags into contacting you + affecting your life.
It's hard, but just don't give them the satisfaction of knowing that they got to you. There is simply no point in trying to clarify any lies; they are just using them to illicit a reaction they can draw some kind of humour from.
Don't dignify their silliness with an answer, simply ignore or delete the messages and get on with your day.

Disable anonymous messaging if you have to. You do not have to give people who do not wish you well the access to your life they obviously crave. People who cannot stand behind their convictions and accusations are not people worth hearing from.

My new years resolution was multi-faceted, but a part of it was to finally disable anonymous messaging on all my blogs/online messaging. I don't have to put up with people being awful for the sake of their amusement, and I certainly do not have to be passive about discussing any issues there may be. It's been absolutely wonderful returning to the internet, and coming back to Tumblr is like coming home. I am so blissed out and flattered by all the kind words and support that arose when my arrival was announced.

Okay! Alliteration aside, I hope this rambling provided some kind of prompt to ridding yourselves of unnecessary negativity. 2012 is a new year, it's time for a change!

Namaste!

xx

Z

4 comments:

  1. you are my favorite fucking person.

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  2. ILU Zeph!!! Totally missed your ramblings.

    While kids can be horrible, you only have to put up with it for so long (or at least that's what you get told/think.) But I'm pretty sure that adults far out do the kids in terms of being nasty/bitchy :\

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  3. You're amazing <3

    Those people should be removed from the gene pool before they cause too much more damage. xx

    essenceoflove1.blogspot.com

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